soften someone up
phrasal verb with soften verb [ I or T ] uk/ˈsɒf.ən/ us/ˈsɑː.fən/
打动，取悦，讨好（某人）
to do things that will please someone so that they will do what you want
You're trying to soften me up so I'll drive you to Jodie's house, aren't you? 你这是想讨好我，这样我就可以开车把你送到乔迪家了，不是吗？